Marriage is a beautiful gift that God has given us, and many people aspire to being married. My husband and I have talked about how thankful we are to have each other. We recently attended a marriage conference where we heard something taught that concerned us both. The speaker said that his wife completes him.
I looked at my husband and said,
“I’m sorry, honey, but you don’t complete me.”
Later that night we talked about why we disagreed with the speaker that day. Here are some thoughts we had….
According to Dictionary.com, “to complete” means to “make (something) whole or perfect.”
1. My husband can’t make me whole.
God didn’t create me broken. God created me in His own image. (Gen. 1:27) He created me as a whole person physically, emotionally, spiritually and mentally. The brokenness I experience is a result of sin in the world.
“So God created man in his own image,
in the image of God he created him;
male and female he created them.”
– Genesis 1:27
When Adam and Eve disobeyed God by eating the fruit from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, sin entered the world that God created. Sin has affected everything. The disobedience of Adam and Eve broke their relationship with God. It has changed how we relate to others, and it has caused us to struggle with understanding ourselves. My husband can’t put me back together again – only God can.
2. My husband can’t make me perfect.
God created man and woman perfect. We were created as a representative of Himself. (Gen. 1:27) But, again because sin entered the world, I experience the consequences of sin. I am not perfect, and I cannot be on my own.
There has only been one perfect man to walk this earth. He never sinned. The only way I will ever be perfect is through salvation in Jesus Christ. (Heb. 10:14) When I stand before the Lord in Heaven, when I have my new body, and when I live with God for eternity, then, and only then, will I be perfect.
My husband can’t control me and make me do everything I need to do to be perfect. Instead, my husband is my sandpaper. God uses him to shape me to look more like Christ.
3. My husband can’t fill the void I feel.
I am very thankful for my husband and his companionship. But, my husband can’t be with me at all times. Only God can be with me at all times. God desires for me to be in a relationship with Him before I am in relationship with my spouse. He knows how I feel when no one else is around. He sees me when I feel lonely in a crowded room. (Gen 16:13) God gives me peace when I am afraid. (John 14:27) He comforts me when I am hurting. (2 Cor. 1:3)
There is only one person who has ever or will ever be able to complete me.
His name is Jesus Christ.
Jesus completes me. My husband doesn’t.
Do you agree or disagree?
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